Monday, January 7, 2013

"Close your windows. This place is Lonely"


Maria Herminia Matos has lived in the same apartment for 39 years. There are not specific features that define the place. A coutryard in the back holds tiny garden beds built into concrete. There is a yard (patio) where I sit to read below the citrus trees and watch the ants rasp the flesh on my arm, digging for food. There is a piano; there is an odd, pink, toilet-like thing in the bathroom that I assume is only for woman. There are tile floors, and every wall is plastered with her daughters’ paintings. 

Mariherminia' speaks softly and twitters, high-pitched, like a song-bird. I am continually admonished by her for my lack of cleanliness. New rules have become integral parts of my daily life: wearing slippers (pantuflas); washing my hands when I touch my slippers; washing my hands when I consider touching my slippers; washing dishes in specific orders (cups, plates, silverware, pans, counters). All this to great applause when done correctly ("he's learning!") and dramatic cries of "NO!" when I forget. The daughters deride her rule ridden household, yet they too are part of the chorus which guides my conduct building a cacophonous symphony to alert me of my ill-doings. 

Of course, I am now accostumed to their songs (The "Wrong Dish Towel" requiem in Bb Minor), and I find joy in the process. Their criticisms are not reserved for me but compose the fabric of a household full to bursting with intelligent, indpendent women. Critiques are given and recieved with equal joy, just as the laughter that follows is given and recieved. The result: perfect harmony in the kitchen. No dishes await doing, and nobody need wonder if the spice on their eggs is grime from the guest's pantuflas. 


The only problem is that I am not yet perfectly integrated into their routine and am prone to fits of self-consciousness. The criticism that I throw back at myself, however, does not last for long and I am soon reassimilating into the mix, stirring a simmering pan of beef for arancini or pounding arepas to the perfect shape and thickness. In this house, I am recieving help, advice and affection without limits and if I for a moment feel poorly, it only a desire to give back with the same ardor with which I recieve, and my growing ponch hangs as proof of my endowment.

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